My grandmother passed away on December 28. She was my mother's mother and I wasn't particularly close to her. But she was my grandmother and I did have some fond memories of her when I was young.
Over the course of the past 10 years, my mother and she became estranged. There are a lot of background details, but I'll spare you. You're welcome. The long and short of it is that my grandmother was extremely abusive and my mother finally had the courage at the age of 63 to stand up for herself and refuse to be bullied any longer. My grandmother began showing obvious favoritism to my uncle and his family. She changed bank accounts, removed names from accounts, and lavished my mother's younger brother with anything and everything money could buy. None of us cared because we weren't interested in being held for ransom and were better off with a clear conscience.
Yesterday, her will was read. We all knew what to expect and my sister, my parents, and I were prepared to be left out. Again, we really had no problem with this. Our memories and the few mementos she had given us over time were worth more than any money could buy. What happened yesterday however, was unbelievably upsetting.
Her will was brief and to the point. She left all personal and monetary belongings to her son, my uncle and his family. But she had added a message at the end. It read:
I am purposely leaving everything to my son to leave out my daughter and her descendants.
It was the final F.U. My mother never did anything to be treated this way. She waited on my grandmother, took her places, cleaned for her, and took her abuse for 63 years. And this is how my grandmother left? I think about my daughters too. They don't deserve to be treated this way either. I am sad. My grandmother spent her life being mean, hateful, and abusive.
All I can do is hope that she finally found her peace. But I sort of doubt it.